You're not losing it. You're in it. And there are unexpected gifts on the other side.
Nobody told you midlife would feel like this.
You did everything right. You built the career, the relationship, the family, the life. And somewhere in the middle of all of it, you looked up and thought: is this it? Not because it's bad. But because something in you is asking for more than you've let yourself want in a very long time.
Maybe it's menopause pulling the rug out from under your sense of self. Maybe the kids left and the house is quiet in a way that's equal parts relief and grief. Maybe your relationship is fine but you feel invisible inside it. Maybe you've just started waking up at 3am with a low hum of something you can't quite name.
This is the territory I work in. And I want to tell you something I've learned from sitting with women in this chapter: what looks like falling apart is often something cracking open. The confusion, the restlessness, the sudden inability to keep pretending things are fine? Those aren't symptoms of something wrong, those are invitations.
Something else is happening too
I'll be honest with you: I didn't expect to end up here. I'm a native New Yorker with a sarcasm habit and a very clinical training. And somewhere in my own midlife I found myself connecting to something larger, something harder to name, something that the women around me were quietly finding too.
Here's the thing. I have been called witchy by clients more times than I could count. I always just thought it was just my therapy training plus being an empath — I can read what is happening before you can. I know what you are feeling and what happened to cause it before you do. Turns out, ahem, it isn't just me being good at my job as a therapist. It is something else entirely. I am still learning about this, these extra gifts I have. But the connection to something greater, a greater purpose, connection to it all, is helping me find more meaning in this crazy, confusing time in this crazy, scary world. And I would love to help you find your gifts too.
Call it a deeper consciousness. A return to yourself. A sense that the part of you that got set aside to take care of everyone else is done waiting. Whatever language fits for you, I've found that midlife for women who are willing to pay attention carries some of the most profound opportunities for growth and transformation of any chapter in a life.
I don't bring a script to this work. I bring curiosity, honesty, some humor and a fair amount of swearing, and a genuine belief that you are not too late, not too much, and definitely not alone in any of this.
So if this doesn't sound crazy and you are curious about this part of yourself, give me a call. As nervous as I am to put this out there, this time in the world calls for a little more crazy and a little less giving any f**ks about what things sound like.
What we actually do together
Individual therapy with me draws on the same foundations as my couples work: attachment theory, neuroscience, and the understanding that so much of how we show up in our lives was shaped long before we had any say in it. We look at the patterns, where they came from, and what it would take to build something different.
But this work is also yours in a way that couples therapy isn't. There's no one else in the room to manage, accommodate, or translate yourself for. It's just you, getting honest about what you actually need, want, and feel, maybe for the first time in a while.
Some women come in knowing exactly what they want to work on. Some come in knowing only that something needs to change. Both are fine starting points.
Sessions are 50 minutes and I see individual clients weekly or bi-weekly depending on what serves you best. I see women in person at my office near Newburyport and virtually in Washington State and New York.
Your body feels foreign
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You're in perimenopause or menopause and feel like a stranger in your own body and life
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You've started waking up at 3am with a low hum of something you can't quite name
Your roles have shifted
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Your kids have left and you're not sure who you are outside of being their mother
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You've spent so long taking care of everyone else that you've lost track of what you actually want
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You're in a relationship that looks fine from the outside but you feel lonely inside it
Something is calling
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You have a growing sense that there's more to this chapter than you've been allowing yourself to imagine
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You feel the pull toward something deeper, something more, and you're not sure what to do with it
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You're ready to stop managing and start actually living
"Your greatest opportunity for personal growth is in showing up fully and honestly in your relationships."
--Carolyn Sharp, Fire It Up.
(The most important relationship being the one with yourself.)
Ready to come back to yourself?
In-person sessions near Newburyport, MA.
Virtual sessions in Washington State and New York.