Fire It Up: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship
Winner of four book awards. More than 50 five-star reviews. Published by Flashpoint Books, January 2025.
About the book
Modern life is stressful, and it's easy for even the best relationships to feel off track. If you're feeling distant, stuck in old arguments, or missing the spark you once shared, Fire It Up was written for you.
Drawing on thirty years of experience as a couples therapist, I share a straightforward four-step approach to rebuilding connection and understanding. With warmth, honesty, and more than a little humor, this book helps you get to the heart of what's actually going on and make meaningful, lasting changes — together.
This isn't a book about what's wrong with your relationship. It's a book about what's possible.
What readers are saying
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ "Carolyn's empathy and down-to-earth style make Fire It Up a compassionate, practical guide for any relationship — not just romantic ones. Clever, funny, and full of useful tools, this is a book you'll return to whenever you need a refresher on building stronger, more secure connections." — Amazon review
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ "Clever, funny, and full of tools you'll actually use. Fire It Up works for relationships of any kind — not just romantic ones. A compassionate companion you'll return to again and again."— Amazon review
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ "31 years into marriage and looking for more spark. I devoured this book. Resonated with so many common pitfalls and habits. Grateful for the direct yet tender delivery — because if not now, when?"— Amazon review
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ "Sharp mixes scientific research with real examples, making complex relationship issues easy to understand and use. She writes with such warmth that readers feel supported while they do the work. I wanted to recommend it to every couple I know." — Readers' Favorite, K.C. Finn
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ "Sharp's writing is infused with energy, wisdom, and an undeniable call to action. She balances inspiration with actionable steps — relatable, transformative, and impossible to put down." — Goodreads review
About the Author
I'm Carolyn Sharp, a licensed clinical social worker and PACT Level 3 candidate with more than thirty years of experience helping couples build relationships they actually want to be in. I wrote Fire It Up because the tools I use in my office every day shouldn't be locked behind a therapy door.
I live on the North Shore of Massachusetts with my husband, our dogs, and a temporarily empty nest. I see couples in person near Newburyport and virtually in Washington State and New York.